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Values: Helpfulness, Warmth, Kindness, Forgiveness, Understanding
You constantly find yourself thinking -and telling your kids- “kill them with kindness.” You believe that the world would be a much better place if everyone would show a little more compassion to one another.
These may appear in helping yourself or your child develop self compassion, helping with sibling and friend squabbles to play fair or in mediating a talk to help both sides understand one another. Perhaps you find yourself withholding judgment because you feel it is best to come from a place of understanding and kindness.
You may find it distressing when you perceive your child’s actions to be thoughtless, judgmental or selfish. Just remember, lead through modeling instead of reacting through fear. They will continue to grow and develop and your unconditional love and understanding will be a part of that.
Values: Togetherness, Connectedness, Teamwork, Interdependence, Cooperation
You view your family as a team and want them to know that everyone has an important role (big or small) that benefits the whole group. This might look like dad making dinner, the kids clearing the table, mom loading the dishwasher, and everyone enjoying a game together afterwards!
Community may be very important to you whether it is something you have or find yourself seeking and yearning for it. You see us all as connected, this may be connected by culture, humanity or even as part of the earth.
You may find it distressing when you perceive your child as refusing to help out, not considering others, or as selfish. Just remember modeling and storytelling are better ways for children to learn these values, not being reprimanded.
Values: Responsibility, Productivity, Discipline, Perseverance, Security
You’re the parent that frequently uses logical consequences when mistakes or problems happen in the home. You value working hard toward a goal in sight and encourage your kids with tools on how to organize and motivate themselves to reach those goals.
You may find you push yourself and those around you to follow through with commitments and projects even if they are disliked (e.g. “You committed to this soccer team so you have to at least finish out the season”). You may prioritize education and following directions with your kids.
You may find it distressing when you perceive your kids to be quitting something, not putting in their best effort or not doing what they are expected to do without being told. Just remember the best way to help your children learn these values is by modeling, involving them in your projects, and using sayings to express how important hard work is in your family. Reprimanding and nagging won’t instill these values in the way you hope.
Values: Curiosity, Openness, Experience, Learning, Skepticism, Risk*
Its very important to you that your family view the world with open arms -and minds! The world is full of exciting and interesting experiences that are enriching to life, but you are mindful of the risks that come with this.
You may find yourself encouraging your child to explore new things, to expect messy mistakes and to be brave. You may enjoy learning together either traditionally or organically. Exploring is part of your life.
You may find it distressing if you perceive your child as anxious, rigid or self deprecating. Just remember, your child is growing and learning and you are their best teacher. Come from a place of compassion and patience to help them feel safe enough to explore and learn.
Values: Health, Conservation, Balance, Leisure, Stability*
You’ve had enough of the grind and hustle culture with work and that’s true with parenting. The most important thing for your family is conserving energy for what matters and making sure everyones’ wellness cup is full.
You may find yourself encouraging others and yourself to take breaks and listen to our bodies. Rest is more important than deadlines. Knowing yourself is important to you because it helps you set boundaries. You may care greatly about nourishing your child’s body just as much as their minds.
You may find it distressing when you perceive your child as eating unhealthy, stressed out about school work loads, overstimulated or overwhelmed. Just remember to model slowing down and resting. Encourage self learning to help your child learn to slow down at their first signs of stress and self discovery to learn what recharges them.